Forgiving someone who has hurt us for most is one of the hardest things to do as believers. The Bible tells us, “Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.” – Colossians 3:13. (NIV Bible)
Okay so the Scripture is pretty clear, we as believers are called to forgive others but that is easier said than done especially if you have been hurt over and over again by the same person. I think one of the hardest reasons it is to forgive someone is because we think by forgiving this person that we are saying what they did was right. Now some people we are called to forgive are easier than others but what if someone has wronged us to a life altering degree that has taken us years and years and we still have not recovered. What if someone has hurt our child in what we think is an unforgivable way. Are we still called to forgive? Just because we are forgiving someone does not mean we are saying what they did is right or that it was okay.
By forgiving someone it does not mean we have to act as if the sin against us never happened or that we have to invite this person back into our life. Forgiving someone means we are no longer holding that sin against them but some sins against us are hard to forget. We don’t have to live like that thing never happened to us. God is all knowing and God can heal us from the pain. God is our comfort and our healer. We don’t have to pretend we are not hurt but we bring that hurt before the Lord and he can heal us. We still need to forgive that person but not because we want to but because God has asked us to. God is not keep a record of our wrongs and holding sin against us or pointing a finger at us so we shouldn’t do that to others. The Lord can give us peace and help us forgive when it’s hard to especially when the person who sinned against you is not willing to change. We must cry out to God for the strength to be forgivers.